The Blur Effect

Wasn’t it just July?

Probably one the most frequent conversations my wife and I have stems around the elusive, missing months.

Where did ________ go?

It’s gotten so bad that we don’t even have to say it anymore. We’ll both just feel it, look at each other, and say something like, “Yeah, I know.”

But then, when did time ever feel slow?

My knee jerk reaction was when I was in 5th grade. Long summer days. Playing outside from 7am to dusk with my buddies. Summer took half the year. Now it takes half a week.

But as I was sitting in the doctor’s office waiting room the other day, I realized there was a time ten years ago where I was bored in such a place. There wasn’t a flatscreen TV on the wall. I didn’t have an iPhone glued to my hip. Nor did I have a MacBook Pro or iPad slipped in my backpack. Just a stack of crusty, over-read magazines on a coffee table drenched with the bubonic plague.

The point is, I’ve realized it’s impossible to be bored today.

There is always something to see, read, look up, or connect to. Wi-fi, cellular, broadband. Always something to keep us distracted.

Think about it. When was the last time you were actually bored?

While every one of us in the modern age could do with a little less internet access and TV time, nostalgia could very easily jump in and say, “We must have simpler times again. Death to smartphones!”

But that’s a pretty easy copout.

The greater, more astute determination is what are you busying yourself with? Distractions of the right sort can actually keep us from pursuing the wrong course.

I want to be distracted from self-centeredness by serving my family. I want to be distracted from the mundane by living out the Gospel in front of unsaved people. I want to be so preoccupied with the creative advancement of the Kingdom that I don’t have time to fret over the failing kingdoms of man.

Working hard, staying focused, and being the consummate student are all things I was raised to do. It’s amazing how often I encounter people who are allergic to “hard work without a break.” As if their mandatory smoke break or magical vacation solve everything. Which they don’t.

It’s how you play your life that counts, not how you pause it.

So if the scenery seems blurry to you, don’t worry about the speed: the course is far more important. And the passengers.

I’m running fast with my wife and children. We’re proclaiming the Gospel with every ounce of energy we have. Every creative idea. Every mile traveled.

The key to living “at speed” is being a better savorer then a backward looker. Because while you may be traveling at a great rate of speed outside, inside the vehicle you’re at a relative “0.”

The moments we have are fleeting. Cherish them. But keep moving forward, as there are many more to come.

Let’s change the question “Where did the week go?” to “How did you live it?” ch:

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Me. But Somewhere Else.

Who are you today?

Me? I’m 32 years old. I have 1 amazing bride and 4 super cute children.

I’m also an associate pastor.

But I live the United States of America. I’m free. To worship. To share. To express.

“Me” somewhere else today – right now – could be Yusuf Naderkhani.

Also 32.

With a wife and children.

A pastor.

Who’s attorneys are hopeful that a corrupt Iranian judicial system will overturn his death sentence today.

A death sentence issued because he failed to renounce his belief in Jesus Christ as God.

Aside from my disgust that the UN is entertaining the whims of a modern day Hitler as if he had legitimate rights, it’s imperative that we remember all politics – right, wrong, or asinine – affect people.

Just a few thousand miles from my home, another version of “me” is in jail.

Read Yusuf Naderkhani’s story. And pray for ALL the people of Iran.

Then ask yourself: how am I utilizing the freedom I’ve been given to know God and make Him known? Because the “you” in another country might not be alive anymore to do the same work. ch:

http://www.foxnews.com/world/2011/09/28/iranian-pastor-faces-execution-for-refusing-to-recant-christian-faith/

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Project’ing

My parents said that, as a boy, I had a new project every day.

It’s amazing to me that how we function as children we often function as adults. Hopefully more maturely.

I feel so blessed that I have a place in my professional life that demands my very best creative abilities every day.

Today I was thanking the Lord for the opportunity to imagine, design, and create stage sets for a church that embraces and celebrates the arts. It’s a privilege to communicate truth through the wonders of design.

Today my cart was full of goodies from Lowe’s. I joke with the staff there because I rarely use the materials in that store for their intended functions.

I suppose the more mature version of myself was trading Legos for Lowes. ch:

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The Art of Celebrating

Serious question:

How do you feel when someone else wins?

No, stop. Don’t lie. I mean really wins. Like, your best friend wins on a $30 million lottery ticket.

What’s your first thought? OK. And your second?

Ah, see, there it is. “Me.” Somehow, “I” enter the thought process much more quickly than I’d like to admit. “Self” wants to participate. Instead of purely celebrate.

Last night Luik was told he would be heading home to Grandma Jo-Jo’s house.

Alone.

He was thrilled.

His older sister was not.

Parenting boys means keeping after the purely stupid things they do for no other reason than to see what happens. Parenting a girl means keeping after drama. Lots of drama.

When Eva finally started to descend from the delirium of her self-centered throes, I talked her through the concept of celebrating her brother’s blessing.

Now, mind you, Luik is by far our most sensitive, most sincere child.

Here’s what happened:

Eva walked into the living room to see Luik all dressed up and ready to go. She’s hugged him, still half-sobbing, and said, “Congratulations on getting to go to Jo-Jo’s house.”

Without missing a beat, Luik said, “Congratulations on getting to stay home.”

Of course all the adults in the room bit our fingers and held back laughter, trying not to ruin the lesson of the moment.

But what was the lesson? Perhaps there was more than just the obvious.

Learning to celebrate one another’s victories – and identify with defeats – is a core value of the Kingdom (Romans 12:15). In fact, much of the political turmoil I see in our nation could be averted if we’d kill jealousy with a healthy dose of genuine celebration. Entitlements to those who have worked hard to be entitled is a virtuous thing. But further still is the citizen of the Kingdom who understands he/she is entitled to nothing. Breathing is a gift. But the polar opposite is the person who feels they are entitled to anything at the expense of everyone else. This is the attitude of a child who was never properly parented.

But there is another lesson:

Learning to see that right where we’re standing is worth celebrating.

To Eva, going to Jo-Jo’s is going to Disney World. But she failed to see the value of where she was. In a home, with her family, and a new baby brother. Even though Luik was excited to leave, he was genuinely happy for Eva who was able to spend more time with Baby Levi and the family.

I’d say nearly every American – including myself – is so focused on what we wish we had that we fail to see the incredible blessing of what we do have. Correcting such an attitude is at the core of a contently lived life.

So try wishing yourself “congratulations” today. Not for where you’re headed. Or what you someday want. But for where you are right now.

Congratulations! ch:

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CiCi’s or Bust!

Opening day.

Was huge.

Our first CiCi’s guest got in line at 6am.

Over a hundred people were in line at 9:30am – 1.5 hours before we opened.

And the lines continued out the door all day long. Standing room only inside.

Jefferson County showed up today. In force. Far beyond our wildest imaginations. We’re now contending for national franchise records right here in Watertown, NY.

I thought this picture of one enthusiastic guest summed up the whole day.

Four years of very hard work. And it was all worth it. ch:

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For the Love of the Game

Our CiCi’s Pizza in Watertown opens tomorrow at 11am.

The first 100 customers through the door get a free adult buffet once a month for a year.

If you don’t come for the pizza, at least come for the games. ch:

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The Family Lotto

I am the luckiest man in the world. Luckiest, if you have a weak grip on reality and trust fate. Blessed, if you understand that God honors choices made in pursuit of Him, regardless of shortcomings.

But before writing on the subject of family – a fitting theme – I want to wish my father, Peter Kirk, a very happy 64th birthday. He taught me virtue, faithfulness, stewardship, and what it means to be masculine in creativity. But more, he showed me through years, not just words, what it meant to love Jesus and family selflessly.

Happy birthday, Daddy. ch:
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WARNING: If you don’t believe in God, or even Providence, then this piece will irritate you.

Even deists will be irritated. If God is distant and uninterested in human affairs, do yourself a favor and stop reading.

Bye bye.

Everyone else – believers in God and divine appointments – how does your family rate in importance?

Now, family can be a touchy subject, so rating them can be difficult.

We all have “the crazies.” You know who I mean. Aunt Mary who smells of mothballs and cheese; Grandpa Sal who swears loudly at punk kids with long hair; and Uncle Frank who flirts with the bride at every wedding he attends.

But even the crazies are important to God. Important enough for Him to trust you with their bloodline, and their legacy – great or small.

So how would you rate your family’s importance in your day-to-day life?

Low? Medium? High?

No matter what your classification, let me help take it to the next level.

If God is truly intentional and deliberate, then of all the 7 billion people on the planet – or roughly 3 billion families – the one you were assigned to is pretty exclusive. Statistically speaking.

So important that 7 billion other people didn’t get your family.

But think even broader. You won the lottery with the most enormous odds of all, because you were born in this era, not in the hundreds previous. Which means your family was handpicked for you by God over thousands of years, not just from billions people.

It would seem He knows what he’s doing, and thinks you’re pretty special to handle the circumstances you were born into. Good. Bad. Or ugly.

When your parents bewilder you, your siblings frustrate you, your kids dumbfound you, and your in-laws freak you right out, remember: you won the family one-in-a-billion lotto.

Literally.

Digesting that statistic may just be the key to letting your parents awe you, your siblings encourage you, your kids bless you, and your in-laws support you.

But there’s almost no hope for smelling like mothballs and cheese. ch:

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[Photo by Joanne Nesbitt]

Made From Scratch

And then there was a new person.

I love meeting people. All over the world. Some formal introductions with significant long-term ramifications; others simple nods or handshakes, first names only, soon forgotten upon exiting the parking lot.

But it’s another thing to meet a person when no one else has ever met them.

Because that person was made from scratch.

The fact that – in the original intention of it all – God designed human beings to be created out of love is fundamentally grand. What could be simpler? What could be more extravagant?

That God would trust the power of perpetuating the human race to the human race.

And then there was Levi. ch:

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Levi

We have a sweet, sweet baby boy.

He arrived at 4:46am.

Mommy is amazing. So proud if her.

More to come. ch:

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Blankets

Judah – my 2.5 year old – collects blankets.

At any given time, he’ll be toting up to 9 of his “blues,” “minis,” or “silkies” around the house. Lounging on them with a chocolate milk bottle, or arranging them for an afternoon nap.

We all think it’s endearing. And quite humorous to see his love affair that is uniquely his own, untaught by any of us.

Yes, not all of our habits are as charming as a 2.5 year old’s fetish with blankets. But we probably have at least one that’s genuinely “us.” That makes us unique.

If it’s annoying to everyone around, maybe think about changing for the better. While no one may say it, that lip biting thing you do is kinda’ awkward for everyone watching. So is the way you overreact to correction, or shake your foot incessantly at the table.

I’m not talking about areas where we need to mature socially or personally.

But that characteristically uncommon thing that’s “so you”?

Yeah.

Don’t change that. It’s part of what makes you “you.” And to the right people, you wouldn’t be right without it.

I still cross my feet when I sit on my knees. My parents thought it was cute when I was a boy – my wife thinks it’s cute today. And my kids all do it, too.

Genetic or not, its often our funkiest habits that become our trademarks. Learn to love ‘em, not despise ‘em. Doing so will only help you love who God invented you to be, and shed some of that ugly self-criticism.

And appreciate the mannerisms, traits, and oddities of those around you. Not only will you smile at the obvious God-fingerprints on them, but your life will be richer for it. ch:

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The Waiting Game

What are you waiting for?

The Hopper Kids were waiting for their Uncle Joe to land at Watertown International Airport (ART) last night.

Because today is the big day. The date we’ve had circled on the calendar for almost 10 months. (I still don’t know why women only get credit for “nine months.” Nine is a myth).

Because we’re waiting for a little baby.

Excited.

Anxious.

Exhausting.

I don’t know how my wife does it.

Please keep Jennifer and Baby H4 in your prayers today. ch:

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The Secret of Significance

It was standing room only last night.

And that’s just the way her memorial service should have been.

Sue Garland was worth coming out to celebrate.

The only way someone touches that many people that deeply is when Jesus is the source. And He most certainly, clearly, deliberately was her source.

Jesus was worth coming out to celebrate.

Dozens of people were saved, hundreds recommitted their hands to service, and we all left hoping that out lives could be lived as significantly as Sue’s.

The beautiful irony of significance is not knowing we are until we’re gone. It’s a life that daily honors the indwelling habitation of Christ, and puts others before one’s self.

I honestly think that Sue thought she was just an ordinary person. But a butterfly never does see the back of its own wings.

To everyone else, she was extraordinary. ch:

UPDATE: 10:25am – I pasted my article for local media this morning:

Hundreds Gather to Honor Sue Garland

Monday, September 19th 2011 – Written by Christopher Hopper

WATERTOWN, NY – There was standing room only last night as people gathered at New Life Christian Church to pay their respects to one of Watertown’s own. The late Sue Garland (01.14.1957 – 09.14.2011) died of heart failure in her home Wednesday morning at 423 South Massey St.

“We had over 500 people show up to honor her life,” said Kirk Gilchrist, senior pastor. “She was a remarkable woman who touched a lot of people through her Christ-like care.”

Those same sentiments were echoed throughout the night as friends and family members paid tribute to her from the podium.

“Her first thought was only to serve others,” said Debbie Allen, Clayton, NY. “We saw Jesus when we were around her.”

Steve Menard of Athens, GA, flew in with his wife and children to honor his late sister. “We were always trying to one-up each other,” he said. “Constantly happy, it was impossible to keep Sue down about anything.”

In his stately tribute to her, husband Ralph Garland charged couples in the audience to a lifestyle of selfless love. “Cherish one another. Don’t wait long to say ‘I’m sorry.’ Tell one another you love each other, and surrender your whole life to Jesus.”

Attendees were lead in a rousing chorus of “I Can Only Imagine,” hands lifted high, the sanctuary ringing with praises to God. A slideshow spanning five decades of Garland’s life played out over the big screens, and Eliza Gilhuly of Depauville sang “Amazing Grace.”

In his closing remarks, Pastor Gilchrist challenged the congregation to model Garland’s lifestyle. “Honor her life by living yours the way she did: serving Jesus.”

Funeral arrangements were made by Colarco Funeral Home. Additionally, Garland is succeeded by her sons Shane and Jeremy Marolf. ch:

 

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