Changing Types

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Eva is my Type A.

She was arranging her own schedule when she was three.

She even invented a way of measuring time leading up to major events by referring to sleep as “light naps” (afternoon naps), and “dark naps” (going to bed at night).

Q: “How many naps until we go to JoJo’s house?” (That’s Grandma Nesbitt).

A: “Three dark naps, two light naps.”

Eva has to know everything that’s going on, when it’s going to happen, who’s involved and where it’s going to take place. She’ll order the boys around, try and figure out the ride situation as well as seating, and even try to negotiate a change-of-course to include a stop for ice cream.

I celebrate my daughter. She’s incredible, and Jenny and I have always known that she’s going to shake the world up for the Kingdom.

But as a parent, working with her constant need-to-know can often be, well, fatiguing. And tedious.

At some point I have to ask her, “Do you trust me?”

Like yesterday when we were preparing to go out on the boat. A lot of questions were asked about details. Finally I leaned over the back seat and said, “Eva, just enjoy the ride.”

As her father, I’ve noticed that Eva enjoys the experiences of her life far more when she leaves the surprises up to me.

As I walked down the dock toward our boat I heard something in my own spirit.

“Christopher, enjoy the ride,” said my Heavenly Father.

It’s a phrase I picked up in Hawaii at my favorite surf shop. Jenny’s been reminding me of it. God’s been reminding me of it. And now I’m reminding me of it as I teach it to this little Type A that’s the female version of me.

It’s amazing how much like Eva we all are. Sure, there’s a healthy, natural curiosity to all of us. But then there’s the “if I don’t know how everything’s going to work out, I’m not sure I want in” angle.

And that comes down to trust.

As I was meditating on just how much I care for Eva and have her best interests in mind, I was reminded just how much our Father think of us fondly. Constantly. Perfectly.

He’s aware of every detail and nothing surprises him. Nothing’s going to catch him off guard concerning us, nothing has escaped his scope of view.

Funny how this parenting thing works.

We enjoy the experiences of our lives far more when we leave the surprises up to the Father.

My little Type A is slowly teaching me to become a Type E. Enjoy the ride.

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  • http://josephgilchrist.com Joseph Gilchrist

    Awesome blog man. Great reminder, and needed to hear it :)

    • http://www.christopherhopper.com Christopher Hopper

      You’re welcome bro. Glad Eva could help us both.

  • Ron Porter

    Good stuff, and a great reminder!! Thanks CH!

    • http://www.christopherhopper.com Christopher Hopper

      You bet bro! Honored to inspire you.

  • Kathrine Fahey

    Thank you for this blog post. I needed this one. As we get ready for our new adventure I feel the Lord asking me to trust HIM too. And to” enjoy the ride”. You and your sweet family will always be so dear to me. And it feels like yesterday that Miss Eva was chewing on my furniture as you guys were in the process of getting your own place. Well done Sir.

    • http://www.christopherhopper.com Christopher Hopper

      I cherish those same memories. Priceless. Thanks for being a part of our lives; live your adventure!

  • DLouisa Ford

    SO needed this today!!! Thanks for sharing!

    • http://www.christopherhopper.com Christopher Hopper

      Thanks Dee! You’re such a blessing to us.

  • http://christiandfahey.wordpress.com/ Christian Fahey

    Excellent post and timely reminder (how quickly we grownups forget). Your little princess will be a world changer for God, of that I am sure. Good to see you writing again. You always have something valuable to say. Safe and prosperous travels to Europe my friend.

    • http://www.christopherhopper.com Christopher Hopper

      Thanks Christian. Appreciate your kindness.

      Europe is going very well. Preached last night at this conference in France, and just lead worship for 4 hours tonight. Intense!

    • http://christiandfahey.wordpress.com/ Christian Fahey

      Do what you do best, Christopher. God will be right there beside you and will not let you down. Carpe diem!

  • http://drummerguyremix.blogspot.com Gabe

    Wow, awesome post, Sir Hopper. I can be a lot like Eva. Gotta know EVERY detail.

    “And that comes down to trust.”

    So true.
    Awesome post, made my morning.

    • http://www.christopherhopper.com Christopher Hopper

      Awe thanks Gabe! Appreciate that!

  • http://zolltech.com Kevin Zoll

    Learning to place your Type A self into a subservient role is a difficult, but extremely valuable skill. There are times we Type As must rely on and trust others to do what is best and will not bring us harm. A skill, admittedly, that I have yet to fully master.

    Eva has great mentors & role models, with Jen & yourself. It won’t take Eva long to master the art of knowing when to lead and when to follow.

    • http://www.christopherhopper.com Christopher Hopper

      Thanks Kevin. Great additions to this post. Always love your comments.

  • http://emmaesquared.blogspot.ca emma e squared

    So true! This is such a great reminder. Thank you! I guess I see it this way:
    Some days the weatherman should look out the window.You can study data and make predictions for all you’re worth but it never guarantees a perfect forecast. It’s just a fact of life. I think many people’s biggest problem, myself included, is that we try too hard to see what’s ahead. We want some assurance that we’ll be prepared for what’s to come. That’s why we worry and try to plan for the unknown. But it would never do to carry our “umbrellas” with us everywhere we go. Trying to predict what happens next only holds us back and weighs us down. It clouds our vision so to speak. If we are too intent on figuring out the forecast for our own life, we miss the beautiful day that is right in front of us.
    http://emmaesquared.blogspot.ca/2012/07/sunny-with-chance-of-rain-or-why-i.html

  • emily zine

    hey i know i have not been on in a while, but i miss you and your kids so much. right now i am helping with a thing at my church it is called mad week.tonight we are performing for all the parents. ever since watson i feel like god is calling me to do something but i dont know what. oh ya i wanted to tell you that one of my friends that didnt believe in god;does now and she loves god just as much as i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!